If you are in a relationship and people are clearly advising you they think you must get out of it, maybe it is something you must pay some attention to. A lot of people in a relationship just can’t see the bad stuff that is right in front of their faces and need an individual near them to point things out.
Even if you do not think the people who are close to you are always right about everything, hear them out. They are on the outside looking in and have a different perspective than you do. Love is blind and if things are bad enough for somebody close to you to wish to step in then simply keep an open mind and listen to just what they need to state. Your relationship and people near you are both important and so, just in the interest of comity you should at least try to do just the message they are trying to relate to you.
Maybe you just do not want to leave the relationship since you are scared you feel a sense of comfort being in your familiar surroundings. However, remember that if what some of these people are telling you is true, your life is going to be a mess if you decide to stay in this situation but you may be able to straighten everything out if you leave this mess behind.
I know somebody who set everything up about six months prior to when she was going to leave. She went and spoke with the real estate people and filled out all their forms and actually had a location to take her children immediately after she left. She got a little cash in the divorce and with her job and the child support she had, she found that everything worked out very well for her.
If this appeals to you then remember that these kinds of applications can easily take a while to get approved so give yourself plenty of time prior to you make the move. When you do get out of your bad relationship, do not merely move down the street or into your mom and dad’s residence. This will make it too easy for your significant other to discover where you went. Move to the next county if you can do so easily. This will make it harder for him to locate you and this will give you even more time to sort things out and get anything in order for the divorce.
You can easily ask your immediate family and friends for support for help with things such as babysitting, this should make the transition for your kids better. They can easily be with people they recognize and not strangers in a day care center. They will have the ability to spend more time with their grandparents and other people you trust and love, as well.
You could take the time right after you move out to get counseling for you and the kids, too. Get busy correcting the damages done by the bad relationship. The more you take care of prior to your separation the better off the transition will be. Do not just think that things will take care of themselves. They may or may not, so make up your mind you will be as thorough as you can and this will leave little to chance. Get the assistance you need right off the bat. If you do these things, chances are good you will get on with the new happy life very quickly.